That's a hot topic these days and with good reason. While most people long for others to love them, the most important person that can love you is….YOU!
When you love yourself, you respect yourself and appear stronger and confident. You establish your self-worth and fire up your internal joy. When all of this happens, you walk away from those that mistreat you because you know you deserve better.
But, for a variety of reasons, most people fail to see the benefit of loving themselves and practicing self-love on a daily basis.
I know, I know...life is crazy busy, and you barely get everything done on your to-do lists as is! How can you be expected to take time out for yourself, too? Or perhaps you've never been taught to love yourself and taking care of others was promoted as the more ‘thoughtful’ thing to do (taking care of your needs is just so 'selfish'...sound familiar?).
While it may take some time to learn to love yourself, there are little things you can do every single day that will help you walk that path.
If you are ready to upgrade your life, then check out my 13 ways to love yourself each and every day...
13 Ways to Show Yourself Love Every Single Day
Before diving into the many ways to take care of yourself, let me stress a key point:
Taking the time to take care of yourself IS NOT SELFISH.
If anyone tries to tell you that taking time for yourself is selfish, either directly or indirectly, do yourself the biggest favor and ignore them. This is one of the greatest misconceptions about self-love and its time we embrace the idea that taking care of ourselves is a necessity.
As for the 13 ways to show yourself some daily love, you don’t have to do all of these (although, you’re more than welcome to!). Pick the ones that align with you and what you enjoy.
If you’re not sure how you feel about something, give it a try…you may find you love it! If you don’t, then at least you know, and you can move on to something else.
#1 | MEDITATE
Meditation doesn’t have to take that much time or be all woo-woo. It’s really about turning your gaze inward, silencing your mind from the endless chatter, and just focusing on your breath. If you don’t have much experience with meditating, there are countless guided ones on YouTube or try the Headspace app.
Even if it's only for 5 minutes, meditating will allow you to release stress, feel more relaxed and positive, and enable you to get more in touch with yourself.
#2 | JOURNAL
Get those feelings out of your head! Let it flow through your pen to your paper and let it go.
I find journaling to be where I can think deeper on topics that are bothering me. Often, I find that it allows me to think of things that I would’ve never thought of had I not written it out. As I clear the space from my head, it allows my mind to go further than the initial problem and learn more about myself and the situation.
#3 | MOVE
Moving your body is a sure fire way to feel good about yourself. This does not mean that you need to join a gym or get up at the crack of dawn to work out (if you enjoy that, then keep on doing your thing!). It could be a simple 15 minute walk during a hectic day at work, or dancing around your living room to your favorite songs.
#4 | PAUSE
I firmly believe in the power of the pause, and it’s one of my favorite tactics for centering myself and checking in with myself. When you take a moment to pause, it allows you to assess what you need at that moment. This can do wonders for staying balanced and slowing down when things get hectic.
#5 | LAUGH
Release a little stress and have a little fun by laughing every single day. Bonus points if you don’t take yourself too seriously and you’re laughing at yourself!
#6 | CONNECT WITH OTHERS
Connecting with others is a great way to remind yourself the difference you make to others. It doesn’t even have to be someone you know; it could be someone in front of you in line while you’re waiting for your coffee at Starbucks.
A couple of years ago, I was chatting with a sales girl at one of my favorite stores. She was telling me that she recently graduated from college and was trying to follow her dreams of being a dancer. She shared how scared she felt, and I was awed by her willingness to be so vulnerable with a stranger.
In turn, I shared my thoughts on following our butterflies (when we feel those butterflies in our stomach...it means we are on to something good so we have to follow them). This young girl, on the cusp of her new life, looked at me and said that was exactly what she needed to hear. She came around the counter, gave me a big hug and told me she was so glad to have met me. I didn't know her name, but I connected with her and made her feel better, which made me feel excellent too!
#7 | Gratitude
It’s no secret that gratitude will brighten your life. When you are routinely reflecting on the different things in your life that you are grateful for, you will find there are so many reasons to love yourself and your life.
#8 | Silence the inner critic
This is a big one and one of the largest blocks to having a good relationship with yourself. Instead of tearing yourself down, speak compassionately to yourself. Treat yourself like you would your best friend, not your worst enemy. Besides...you don’t have to believe everything you think.
#9 | Forgive yourself
Since you're human, I'm betting that you tend to be your own worst judge and critic. You likely hold grudges against yourself for minor things that you wouldn’t care in the slightest if someone else did! This inability to forgive yourself will continue to block your ability to love yourself.
#10 | Remind yourself how awesome you are
Every morning, start the day by telling yourself something you like about yourself or something that you do well. Just like something negative, the more times you hear something positive, you'll start to believe it!
I also like employ this tactic when I hear the inner critic pop up…I stop it and replace it with something positive.
#11 | Don’t compare yourself to others
I'll get right to the point on this one...stop comparing yourself to others. Nobody else can compare to you because you're wonderfully unique just as you are!
#12 | Try something new
Trying new things can be exhilarating, can help you step past fear, and boost your confidence!
The next time you have the opportunity to try something you’ve never done before…do it!! You'll feel amazing afterward and suddenly think you're the coolest person around!
#13 | Do something fun
This is an easy one! Try to do at least one fun thing every day! Get an impromptu ice cream, treat yourself to a manicure, play with your neighbor’s dog, etc. It doesn’t have to cost anything or even take that much time, but try to find something fun to do every day!
I'm not here to tell you that you will be happy every single day. That's not realistic. But even when you're unhappy, it doesn’t mean that you can’t love and respect yourself every single day.
Self-love takes practice, but the more you focus on it and make it part of your life, the more it becomes second nature
It's not someone else’s job to make you feel loved…that starts within YOU. It's one giant circle, and you are at the beginning, the end, and every step in between.
If you're not sure where to start, pick a few things off my list of 13 ways to love yourself every day to get started!