Self doubt...it creeps in when we don’t expect it and don’t need it hanging around. You know what I’m talking about, right? We all hear it from time to time...’you can’t do that’ or something of that variety pops in our mind when we get a little scared or nervous about something new.
For a lot of folks, that’s enough to make them stop right in their tracks because they believe it, which is such a shame!! Think of all the amazing opportunities they have likely missed out on because they didn’t tell that little voice to shut it!
I was going to write up a list of various things to tell yourself when you’re faced with this situation, but then I realized, there’s really only one thing you need to say when you hear that little voice telling you that you can’t do it...
I could give you several other sentences to repeat to yourself, but what it all comes down to is telling yourself that yes…you can do it. Feel free to use other mantras or loving reminders, but if you tell yourself you can (and mean it!), it’s hard to refute yourself!
I’m not going to sit here and tell you that I never tell myself I can’t do something. Far from it!! Every time I'm faced with a new challenge, I feel that little voice of self-protection creep in and tell me not to do it, or I can’t achieve it, or whatever. Depending on what it is, it’s sometimes easy to ignore it and carry on. But with other, bigger things, it’s much louder and much harder to ignore.
There was a time I wouldn’t even think further and I’d give in to it, but now, I at least try to figure out why that little voice is trying to hold me back. What am I afraid of? If I can pinpoint the source of my fear, it’s much easier for me to come up with a plan that pushes through the fear. If I can’t pinpoint it, I’ll admit, I hesitate, and will generally hold off until I can get to the bottom of the fear!
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But I’m not perfect…sometimes, I give in to it and back off. I’ve gotten to the point where that isn’t my standard operating procedure, but it does happen and it will happen to you!
The key is to not let that little voice make your decisions for you in the majority of the cases!
Words are powerful. We know how damaging the words of a bully can be, but our words to ourselves can be just as crippling. At the very least, your words reflect your fears and probably more specifically, your fear of failing. In extreme cases, your words go even further and reflect your core beliefs about yourself.
This quote is one of my all time favorites because it’s SO true! If you think you can’t do something…you’re absolutely right. You can’t do it because YOU won’t let yourself even try. If you think you can, you’ll go for it. You may not end up accomplishing what you’re going for, but at least you tried and I’m betting you will learn something from it and will try again. So…that’s not failing!
I’m going to keep it short today because the message is simple…believe in yourself!!
And if you think you can’t do something…please...think again!
What do you think? Do you listen to the doubt and stop yourself from giving something a try, or do you go for it? Leave me a comment and let me know!