What Can We Do Better?

Not that this is breaking news, but in case you missed it…today is Election Day here in the US.  As a lover of history, I enjoy watching history unfold as the returns start to come in, but this year, as we all know, is quite the unique Election cycle, right?

I’m not going to talk about the candidates we’re collectively voting on today.  There’s enough talk already and I like to keep things rather positive here on Heart & Moxie.  What I will say is that while politicians and politics, in general, are disappointing, this particular election year has been depressing to watch unfold.

Hate has reared it’s head (on both sides), love and respect for others has gone out the door and the desire (from others) for violence has increased.

What has happened to our country??

Fewer people are coming together and our nation feels divided.  I remember a time when people joined together and while they may not have agreed on everything, politicians actually worked together.  What a novel idea!

Sadly, that hasn’t been the norm in quite some time and this country is more split than ever.

I’m not going to going to be cliched and ask that we all love each other (but, for just a moment…can we?!  pretty please!).  But, on this historic day where we change the guard in the White House, let’s look beyond the politicians and Washington. 

Let’s look to ourselves and ask what WE can do better.

We can’t change the politicians (unfortunately), we can’t change our neighbors, or the people we see on TV.

We can, however, change ourselves.


What can we do better?

There are a lot of things we can all collectively do better - walk more, eat more salads, spend less time on our phones/computers/tablets, etc.  As worthy as those upgrades are, that’s not exactly what I’m referring to here.  

We need to make some adjustments on how we treat ourselves and more importantly, how we treat others.  No one is immune to making improvements in these areas, everyone can tweak a few things and do even better.

Here are a few of my suggestions...

Be Grateful

Since Thanksgiving falls in November, it’s become common for people to use the entire month of November to be public with their gratitudes.  A daily gratitude practice is always a rewarding thing, but in November it typically comes alive and social media is all a buzz with everyone’s daily appreciations. 

Maybe I just haven’t been paying attention, but I feel like I haven’t seen as much of that this year.  

Can we start there?  

Can we all think of 3 things right now that we’re grateful for?  I can:

  • My health
  • My family & friends
  • My relationship with myself (may sound weird, but I’ve worked hard on improving this over the last few years and I’m proud of where I am now…plus it establishes the strong base from which I do everything else)

Most of our society is so obsessed with what they don’t have - be it material or otherwise - that they completely miss seeing what they do have!  

Stop trying to keep up with the Jones and just be grateful for what you are blessed with right now.

Love Yourself

Beyond being grateful, it really all starts with ourselves.  If we don’t love ourselves, we can’t truly love others.  Take the time to get to know yourself and to fall in love with yourself.  You don’t have to love every single thing about you, but you should at least respect every single thing about you. 

We’re all works in progress and none of us are perfect, but we can absolutely love ourselves in spite of our imperfections. 

When we don’t love ourselves, we typically allow our insecurities to judge others that embody exactly what we’re trying to avoid within ourselves.

Allowing our insecurities to judge others is a short term balm to make ourselves feel better, but in the long run, all we do is damage ourselves and distance ourselves from people who’s differences could inspire and enlighten us.

That leads me to...

Love others

Stop judging other people….just stop.  You can’t judge others unless you’ve walked in their shoes.  You haven’t and you never will. 

Don’t be so arrogant to assume you know what’s right for everyone else based on your life experiences only.  

You may not agree with the life choices of others…fine…it’s not your life.  You don’t have to choose the same choices that others have chosen, but that doesn’t mean that you get to judge them for it.  You don’t have to be around them, but you can’t judge them or expect them to live their life according to your beliefs and rules. 

We’re all different and have different needs and ways of being.

Stop judging others and find peace within yourself.

If you really want to grow as a human being, embrace the differences in others.  These differences are what make everyone unique and beautiful.  Embrace it and enjoy it because it will enrich your life.  We are all students of everyone around us (and in turn we are all teachers to everyone around us)….soak up their knowledge, differences, and uniqueness. It can only improve you and the world around you.

Give back

Let me start off by saying that I need to work on this one a bit more.  I donate money to causes I believe in, but I don’t really give my time and/or myself to organizations or causes.  I can say it’s because I don’t have a lot of time and that’s true, but I could do better.  It will be one of my goals for 2017 because giving back is what allows us to give part of ourselves to others.  It allows us to help others stand a little taller.

Like it or not, karma is real, baby.  When you give yourself unselfishly to the benefit of others, it not only helps them, it helps you.  Good things will boomerang right back to you.  

People helping people is one of the most inspiring and compassionate things we can do as humans.


My Post Election Hope

Regardless of who ends up in the White House after all the votes are tallied, I hope we can all come together with more compassion, empathy, and love for one another.  If we want to make America great again…that’s what we need. 

Is that really too much to ask for?

Hate, judgement, division, selfishness, bitterness, and fear will never make America great again.

What is something you could do better? Share it with us and inspire others with your own journey...