Remember being a teenager when everyone was desperately trying to be ‘normal’? Everybody wore the same brands, the same hairstyles, the same shoes, etc. etc. etc.
We wanted to fit in and feel like everyone else. We also didn’t want to make ourselves a target for ridicule by standing out!
As we move into adulthood, we sometimes drop a little of that and begin to step into our own individuality, but not by a lot. We still strive to hide our quirks so we blend in with everyone else.
We want to be ‘normal’.
But, here’s the real deal…no one is ‘normal’ by the traditional definition that we all strive for! @@We are all unique with our individual quirks and weirdness, and THAT is what is normal.@@
Most of us try to hide this because we’re afraid of what others will think. We all try to fit into the ‘norm’, but who defines this? What’s ‘normal’ to one person is completely ‘crazy' to someone else, so what are we trying to align ourselves to anyway?
Personally, I love the weird, quirky, unique things in each person I meet. That’s what makes each person interesting! If we were all the same, what a boring world it would be.
Think back to those high school years and remember the kids that marched to the beat of their own drums? Some of them were probably bullied or shunned, which is a shame.
They already knew themselves and were secure enough in themselves to show up as themselves (even if they didn’t realize it at the time). Everyone that gave them a hard time was fueled by their own insecurities and probably even a little jealousy that they couldn’t show their true selves.
When we judge other people, it’s really a reflection on our own insecurities and for things we feel shame. We project it on others as a means to help ourselves feel better.
Think about it…where do most women feel insecure? Their bodies and appearance. When you hear women tearing each other apart (which sadly, they do with frequent regularity), where are they aiming their sharp daggers?
At women’s bodies or appearance.
(While I could go off on a rant about all the body shaming going on these days, that’s a bit off topic, so I’ll leave it at that for now!)
@@We’re all trying to hide who we really are to align with this ideal of ‘normal’ when in reality, all we’re doing is pandering to people’s insecurities.@@ If we turned our focus on ourselves to heal and accept ourselves as we are, we’d all accept and respect others as they are.
When you show up in life as the real you…not some edited version of you…I guarantee that more people will admire you and respect you as you are. Yes, you might get judged by some people, but I hate to break it to you…you already get judged now.
So…you might as well be true to yourself and show up as you! Don’t worry about what the judge-y people say or think. That’s a reflection of their insecurities…it has nothing to do with you.
@@Be you…be 100% you. The original you is so much better than the edited version you!@@