Some of us take pride in being hard on ourselves. It’s what drives us forward. We push ahead because we bully, *ahem* I mean motivate, ourselves into doing more, being more, and never giving up.
Or, we might just beat ourselves up because we make a simple mistake and we’re embarrassed or frustrated with ourselves.
Here’s the thing…YOU ARE HUMAN.
Humans screw up and make mistakes.
It’s what we do and we don’t mean to.
When someone you love makes a mistake, do you berate and bully them for it? Do you tell them they’re a colossal failure and that they’ll never be able to achieve anything? (I’m going to hope your answer is no on that one! 😉 )
So…why do we do this to ourselves?
Stop Beating Yourself up!
The foundation for living a life that is aligned with who you truly are starts with unconditionally loving yourself.
You cannot love yourself if you are beating yourself up for mistakes or if you’re setting the bar so high for yourself that you can’t ever achieve it (and thus bullying and berating yourself for failing to meet your unrealistic expectations).
Every single day you get up, you go to work, perhaps you take care of a family, perhaps you don’t, but regardless, somewhere in there you need to take care of yourself. But, you have so many distractions and demands that you forget.
You are doing the very best that you can and that is more than enough.
You have to stop that inner dialogue that tells you otherwise or you will never climb out of the quicksand of self-loathing.
It's time to accept & forgive yourself
So, you may be asking, how do you learn to accept yourself more and forgive yourself daily?
It starts by forgiving yourself for all your mistakes, imperfections, flaws, quirks, unrealized dreams, lack of motivation, etc. etc.
As you start to forgive yourself, you’ll start to accept yourself exactly as you are. This part takes a lot of work because we’re not supposed to accept ourselves and like ourselves.
As women, we’re supposed to nitpick our flaws and be super self-critical. But, how’s that going for you?
Wouldn’t it feel better and make life a lot easier to actually like yourself and to stop being critical of everything about yourself?
When you catch yourself putting yourself down, catch it, stop, and then consciously think the exact opposite.
For example, if you hear your mind saying “You will never be smart enough to earn that promotion.” change it up and tell yourself “I am totally capable of snagging that promotion and jumping up to the next level where I belong!”.
After awhile, you’ll notice you feel more comfortable in your skin and you’re berating yourself less frequently. In fact, when you do, it’ll stand out to you because it won’t be your everyday dialogue.
It takes time, but trust me…it’s worth it.
Set aside the time and trust yourself. You deserve it.
Ready to learn how to accept & forgive yourself?
Beginning on March 6, I’ll be leading a 4 week, small group program where you will start to learn how to fall in love with yourself without feeling an ounce of guilt.
Imagine, accepting yourself as you are and not being so damn hard on yourself!
Interested? Check it out and enroll now!