Why Being Self-Aware Changes Everything

How aware are you of yourself at any given time?

If you’re like most, you’re probably blissfully ignorant of your true self.  

Oh sure, you think you’re totally in tune with yourself, right?

Most of us have spent so many years carefully crafting a near perfect mask to hide everything we don't  want to see. 

We don’t just hide our true selves from others, we also hide our true selves from ourselves!

If you are feeling lost, disconnected, frustrated with your life, unfulfilled, or like you’re constantly misunderstood by everyone else, you’re probably not even aware that you sport that mask 24/7.

If you want to love yourself more and live a life that has more meaning to you, you have to rip off that mask and get really real with yourself.

The more you can hone your self-awareness, the more your life will be aligned with who you really are.

And that, my dear, is when you truly start living.


What Exactly is Self-Awareness?

So, what exactly is self-awareness?

Self-awareness is clearly understanding who you are (i.e. your personality), what you’re good at (or not good at), what drives you, what inspires you, your feelings and emotions, and your thoughts and beliefs.  Being fully self-aware allows you to understand how others experience you and how you react to others.

It basically puts you in the driver’s seat of your life.

When you are fully aware of yourself, you are able to see yourself from the inside and outside.  You don’t just make decisions from the logical part of your brain, you allow your body to get in on the action.  You can feel when something is right or wrong and regardless of what your head tells you, you go with that.

You know what you need, what you crave, and what’s getting in your way.

This awareness paves the way for you to be more confident and to stand up for what you need in order to thrive.

But, it’s not always easy to find.  We live in a world of smokescreens.  We are masters at hiding from ourselves because our insecurities have too much power over us.

The thing is…when you become more open with yourself and more self-aware, it helps to minimize those insecurities!


What it looks like to lace self-awareness

Not sure if you are fully self-aware?

First off, if you have to ask, you probably aren’t too self-aware. If you have worked on this, you know yourself and you don’t have to ask yourself.

But, let’s see if any of these sound familiar...

You have trouble saying ‘no’
Others tend to have more power of your decisions than you because you're not clear on what is or isn't important to you 

You regularly do things that you regret later
You don't recognize the signals your body gives you to indicate a strong yes or a strong no.  This leads you to make all of your decisions from your head.  Don't get me wrong, analyzing things from a place of logic and reason has it's place, but if you only make decisions from here, you aren't tapping into your own desires or boundaries.

You feel like your life is lacking meaning or purpose
You feel like you're floating along in life with no real direction or no real tie to what you're doing.  You may even feel disconnected, unfulfilled, or dissatisfied with most things in your life. This is because you aren’t fully aware of what you want for yourself.

You’re a mystery to yourself
You have no idea how you come across to others.  This is important because how you appear to others impacts how they treat you.


Why You Need to be More Self-Aware

Without self-awareness you can't improve yourself of truly fall in love with the real you.

When you don’t know yourself well enough, others have a much stronger influence over you, so you tend to go along with what others want more so than what you want or need.

When you lack self-awareness, it can create stress, feelings of disappointing others, confusion, and feeling lost.  You might even feel uncomfortable in your own skin.

When you get clear on who you really are, you can set boundaries, express your true desires, and stand up to the unrealistic expectations of other.

You start to own and live your truth…not someone else’s.

As your self-awareness increases you give yourself permission to be you.  You give yourself permission to embrace who you are and accept it.  

When you’re aware of who you are, you take down the walls that prevent the love to flow and be directed to you, from you.


Want to Learn to be More Self-Aware?

On March 6, I’ll be leading a 4 week, small group program where you will start to learn how to fall in love with yourself without feeling an ounce of guilt.

Imagine, loving yourself unconditionally with no apologies, no excuses, and no guilt.

Interested?  Check it out and enroll now!

How do you see yourself? Are you strong on the self-awareness or do you recognize that you might need to take a closer look at you?