How strong is your sense of self-worth?
Your self-worth is arguably one of the most important parts of yourself to work on and strengthen because it is your foundation.
A lot of people confuse self-worth with self-esteem or assume they’re two words for the same thing. But, they’re not. While connected, they’re two different things.
Your self-esteem will ebb and flow, even if you have a healthy self-esteem. But your self-worth is unwavering.
Your self-esteem is a product of your self-worth.
So, if you want to make changes to your life, start with your self-worth.
WHAT IS SELF-WORTH?
Your self-worth is how you feel about yourself. It’s your opinion of yourself. It’s your self-image.
It’s how much value you place on your existence in this world.
You won’t tolerate anyone treating you badly, and you won’t treat yourself badly.
It’s not about being arrogant or entitled. It’s not saying you deserve the finest things in life.
It’s about knowing you are a valuable human being that contributes to society and the world around you. It’s knowing that as a result of this, you deserve to be cared for, treated with respect, to be paid accordingly for your skills.
When you have a strong sense of self-worth, you respect yourself.
WHY YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON YOUR SELF-WORTH
If you value yourself, you probably have good self-esteem. On the flip side, if you don’t value yourself, your self-esteem is likely pretty low.
But, to only focus on improving your self-esteem means you’re simply learning to apply band-aids to the real problem.
You have to start with boosting your self-worth if you want to live the best life possible (for you).
Self-esteem, even when positive, ebbs and flows with the current situation, your mood, the time of day, etc.
Self-worth, on the other hand, is rock solid. It’s your foundation.
When you work on strengthening your self-worth, your self-esteem comes along for the ride.
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR SENSE OF SELF-WORTH
The first step to increasing your self-worth is to be aware of how you feel about yourself. Do you feel you’re worthy of love, a job that pays you what you’re worth (do you know what you’re worth?), time to yourself, happiness, security, etc.?
If you don’t feel you are worthy of these things, you need to focus on this because as a human being you deserve all of that and more.
So, where do you begin?
Gratitude is the balm for many of life’s problems. When you can look beyond what’s wrong in your life and with yourself to see what’s right, you boost your self-worth in the process.
No matter what is going on in your world, you can always find something to be grateful.
Work on your Inner Bully
That voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough has a firm hold on you. It’s excellent at pointing out your flaws and berating you for them.
The challenge is to understand that you don’t have to believe everything you think. When you work on getting to know your Inner Bully (what I like to call that voice in your head), you quieten the voice and lessen its power. That allows you to start seeing your worth.
Notice your skills and own them
You have talents and skills. Everyone does. Unfortunately, a lot of people downplay them. Know what you’re good at and own it. It’ll boost your self-esteem and self-worth in an instant.
When you start taking the time to take care of yourself, you unknowingly raise your sense of worth. You can’t take the time you need for yourself without leaning on your worthiness.
Be intentional about taking care of yourself, and your self-worth will bloom in the process.
Don’t have time to take on a new volunteer project or pick up your neighbor’s kids from school? Learn to say no and set the boundaries you need to guard your energy and own needs.
It’s not selfish. When you feel your worthiness, you know you have to honor your needs, so start by setting boundaries and saying no.
Get rid of toxic relationships
Whether it’s family, friends, partners, ex-partners, co-workers, etc., if they’re no good for you, cut them out of your life, period. For some, it may be relatively easy, but for others, it could be a more drawn out process.
Toxic relationships - those that make you feel unworthy, have you acting like a doormat, or drain your energy - are never worth it. They’ll hold you down and never allow you to gain a strong sense of self-worth. Cut those out of your life, and you can start down a path towards a stronger sense of self.
Get to know yourself
You’d think it’d be easy to say you know you. But, so many people are afraid to peel back the layers and see what’s inside. It’s one of the reasons some people can’t stand to be single and hop from relationship to relationship. They’re terrified to get to know themselves.
If you want to feel more worthy of yourself, do self-reflection work. This may be journaling, working with a coach or therapist, or getting into meditation.
Work with a professional
As mentioned in the last bullet point - part of the journey in working on yourself might be enlisting the help of a therapist or coach. Bringing in an impartial person to help you see things differently can be life changing.
Your sense of self-worth is the key to a fruitful and happy life.
If you feel you are worthy of those, then you’ll set your life on a course to have them. You’ll also see those opportunities when presented, and you’ll make room for them in your life.
Don’t worry about your self-esteem - focus on your self-worth, and you’ll automatically boost your esteem.
Your life is worthy - you are worthy.
It’s time you not only believe it but feel it.
If you want to partner with someone that has your back and is in your corner, then let’s work together!