Most people are on auto-pilot.
Most people do the same things every day, every weekend, every month, and every season. It’s like the movie Groundhog Day.
As I’ve been talking to women in my 100 Coffee Chats project, I keep hearing how they want more adventure in their life.
They’re bored. They feel life used to be more exciting and now it’s the same thing every day.
They have nothing to look forward to and each day is a repeat of the day before. But, they crave it that extra spice in life (one woman said she needed muy caliente in her life).
No, you may not be able to do it quite as spontaneously as you did in the past, and your adventures at 40-something may look entirely different than at 20-something. In spite of these differences, it’s still within your ability to make more adventure happen.
Breaking out of the norm and inviting a little adventure into your life is what living is all about!
If you’re doing the exact same thing every single day, is that really living?
WHY ADVENTURE IS IMPORTANT
Adventure is the secret sauce that allows us to experience life in an entirely different way. It’s what wakes us up and gets the adrenaline pumping.
Creating a life that honors adventure brings a multitude of things into your life...
ABILITY TO TRY NEW THINGS
Adventure gives us opportunities to try new things. Trying new things allows us to grow and become better versions of ourselves.
Every time you try something new you learn new things. When you learn new things, you change who you are (for the better).
- Eleanor Roosevelt
ABILITY TO FACE OUR FEARS
Most of us default to doing what we always do because it’s easy. We don’t have to think about it and we don’t have to get uncomfortable.
But, sticking to what works is the lazy way to live and easy isn’t always good.
Doing something adventurous will likely have us stepping out of our comfort zones and facing a few fears. When you step around your fears, you empower yourself more.
And, if you want to change who you are or your life, in general, you have to get uncomfortable.
Adventure gives us a very fun way of getting uncomfortable to find what we desire.
OPPORTUNITY TO BE HAPPIER
New experiences typically bring us joy which makes us feel more fulfilled. Most of us are craving more fulfillment, and when you’re more fulfilled, you tend to be happier.
Research also shows that when we try new things and learn new things we’re happier for it.
Because when you experience something new you’re getting away from the routine and living life.
Who doesn’t want to be happier?
DEFINE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE
The word “adventure” may scare some people because they think that means something big and risky like skydiving or hiking through the Amazon for a month. Or, they shy away because they believe that it has to cost a lot of money.
Neither of these is true.
The beauty of sprinkling in more adventure in your life is that YOU get to define what that means.
What is adventurous to one person will be completely boring to someone else.
My response to that is who cares what others think??
This is YOUR life, and you deserve to live it according to your desires.
For me, I have no desire to jump out of planes or climb tall mountains or anything like that. For others, that’s the only form of adventure they can imagine.
My preferred form of adventure is exploring.
Sometimes, I go big with that and plan a two week trip to Europe by myself. But since I can’t do that all the time, I typically indulge in my sense of adventure by exploring the area where I live.
On some weekends, I hop in my car and just drive around areas within a 2-hour radius of where I live to check out new places.
I get the same level of excitement and feeling of being alive from doing that as when I go overseas. Yet, I’m only spending one day and a half a tank of gas.
My question for you is what makes you feel excited? What would light you up?
Maybe it’s taking a cooking class, or perhaps you’ve always wanted to try glassblowing. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it’s something that would light you up and make you forget about the usual routine for just a little while.
HOW TO MAKE ADVENTURE HAPPEN
Adventure typically doesn’t just happen. You have to make it happen.
Now, I know...you’re a busy woman with lots of responsibilities and no time to give to adventures.
If that’s your resistance, then ask yourself what it costs you to be on such a scheduled routine you might as well be running on a hamster wheel all day.
If you want to feel more adventure and experience more excitement in your life, you need to do the following...
MAKE IT A PRIORITY
Stop the excuses and stop putting it off to ‘someday.' ‘Someday’ is now.
You have to make it a priority to try something new every week (or every month if every week is a little too much at this point).
When we make things a priority, something magical happens...we tend to do them.
FIGURE OUT WHAT ADVENTURE MEANS TO YOU
As explained in the last section, you need to find out what adventure means to you.
You can’t invite it in if you don’t know what it is.
Yes, you could go big right out the gate, and that’s fine, but if you want to add more adventure into your life, think smaller (like my local exploration adventures!).
It doesn’t have to be over the top or take up tons of time. While I strongly encourage you to consider big adventures, I also want you to think of small things that you can start adding into your life right now.
USE YOUR VACATION DAYS
Americans are notoriously horrible at using their vacation days. Or, they still stay connected to work via their phones and laptops while on vacation.
I get that some jobs require that, but most don’t, and you feel obligated to do it anyway.
If the latter is you, you need to stop doing that...like, RIGHT NOW.
I’m blessed with five weeks of paid vacation at my day job. I use every last day, and I don’t check in while I’m off. You know what else I don’t do...feel the least bit guilty about it.
You’ve earned the time off, so use it. Taking breaks and recharging will allow you to do your job better. Not taking time off or staying tethered to your job while on vacation, is doing you a disservice by not fully recharging.
We only live once.
Life is flying by, and we don’t get do-overs so to fully live your life you have to make each day count.
When you’re old and gray do you want to look back on a life where you did the same boring thing every day, or do you want to look back on a life of experiences and new opportunities?
It’s your choice, and you do have the power to change how you’re living your life.
If you want to explore this topic further, I will be opening a new 1:1 mini program, Find Your Edge, later this year. Get on the info list to get more details when the doors are prepping to open!
If you don’t want to wait that long, join my FREE Facebook group - Gen X Connects. Those lucky ladies have access to a free workbook on finding your adventure!