Your Permission Slip: Make Yourself a Priority

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I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that you’re exhausted, stressed out, and feeling pulled from all angles.

Maybe it’s your partner, kids, dog, and a crazy schedule that have you running around in circles.  Or, perhaps it’s a demanding boss and high-stress job that needs your constant attention.

Whatever it is, you’re stretched thin, and you’re ready to snap.  

Sound familiar?

I’m guessing you’re feeling this way because this is a common situation for most women.  But, common doesn’t mean you have to put up with it!

I hate to break it to you but, when you’re in this spiral of can’t-catch-up, everyone-needs-me-every-minute, or there’s-not-enough-time-in-the-day, it’s because you’re not making yourself a priority in your life.

 

WHY YOU SHOULD BE A PRIORITY

Here’s the thing...you’re just as important as everything and everyone else in your life.  In fact, I’d say you’re even more important because you’re the backbone of your entire operation (i.e., life).

Your needs, wishes, desires, joy, self-care, etc. are all part of what makes you healthy and strong - mentally, physically, and emotionally.

If you ignore yourself, you stifle your ability to thrive.  When you’re not thriving, you’re not living.  Not only are you not succeeding for yourself, but you also can’t be the best version of yourself for everyone or everything else.

 

HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY

Understanding that you deserve some time to be you is the first step.  Knowing it’s NOT selfish is key to carving out the space you need to plant some personal seeds and let them grow.  

Beyond knowing that you deserve that time, here are some of my favorite tips for making yourself a priority in your life...

 

Start small

You know what they say about Rome...it wasn’t built in a day, so don't expect to make a complete overhaul of your time and perspective on your life in one fell swoop.  Start small and build up to the place where you are as much of a priority as everyone and everything else.

 

Get Curious

Before beginning the work to make yourself a priority, you have to get crystal clear on the areas of your life that are feeling neglected; otherwise, you won’t know where to focus your attention.  Ask yourself where you feel the most depleted or frustrated.

 

Set boundaries

Once you know the areas that need a little attention and love, put fences around them and draw lines in the sand so you get the time you need to do the work you crave.  Setting boundaries guarantees that you're a priority in your life.

 

Honor where you are

Don’t beat yourself up for whatever you’ve done, not done, etc..  Accept where you are, honor how you got there, and vow to make some changes.  Let it go and move forward.

 

MAKE THE COMMITMENT

It’s a new year, so there’s no better time to make a commitment to yourself to become a priority in your life.  

If you’re wishy-washy about setting aside that time, you won’t do it.  So, block it off on your calendar, alert your family and friends that it’s your time, and make that commitment to yourself.

 

FINAL THOUGHTS

No one else is responsible for your life.  You have to woman-up and take charge of your needs so you can be the best version of yourself.  It’s not selfish or irresponsible.  It’s just smart.  

So...what are you waiting for?