Don't Be Afraid of Adventure: Redefine It!
Let’s face it: many of us spend our days waiting for something to happen. We either feel stuck in our life, or we’re on autopilot and just cruising along. All the while, we’re waiting for something to change.
This isn't living, folks. This is just existing.
Life should be more than just existing! Yes, we have to adult on a daily basis, but we also have to take intentional time to have a little fun.
When we spend day after day waiting, we become trapped, and we’re living life on the surface. We become disappointed because we’re just going through the motions.
Most of us, by the time we’re closing in 40, crave adventure. I know this to be true, not only because I’ve experienced that, but in talking with countless women, they tell me they want more adventure in their life.
We need to get off the hamster wheel, feel the wind in our hair, and do something that feels exhilarating.
For life to be more enriching and meaningful, it needs challenges and difficulties. Every satisfaction in life will eventually lead to dissatisfaction (hello, shiny penny!) so we have to keep reinventing ourselves and our lives.
If we stick with what we know and what’s safe, we get bored and live a shallow life.
Adventures get us out of our routines, squashes the boredom, and deepens our life’s experiences.
But, maybe you’re not into jumping out of airplanes or skiing down black diamonds. Adventure doesn’t have to mean risking life and limb!
The definition of adventure that most people think of is an activity that’s thrilling and/or slightly dangerous. It’s living on the edge!
This can, understandably, be intimidating and keep many of us from seeking adventures because jumping out of a plane doesn’t sound like fun (it certainly isn’t on my must-do list!).
Also, a lot of times we think of adventure as involving travel, and we may not be in a place where we can take the time or spend the money.
So, we tell ourselves ‘adventure’ is for those other people - the spontaneous, thrill-seeking, adventurous people as we go back to our cubicle day after day until we’re ready to crawl out of our skin.
But here’s the thing: Adventure doesn’t have to be any of those! What’s adventurous to me, may not be to you (again, I go back to the jumping out of an airplane idea!) and vice versa.
We have to define what adventure looks like for ourselves; we can’t latch onto someone else’s ideas, claim it doesn’t fit, then quit.
If you are craving something more in your life, or some grand adventure, don’t squash the idea because it doesn’t fit society’s definition!
I invite you to reject society’s idea and redefine adventure under your own terms!
Think of adventure as anything that gets you excited....
Think, waking up on Christmas morning as a little kid - you didn’t have to go anywhere or spend any money...you just woke up, and it was the most exciting day ever.
Think, trying something new - the first time you went on a date with your partner, or the first time you visited a favorite local getaway spot (i.e., a favorite hiking trail, a favorite cute little town nearby, etc.), or the first time you showed up to learn something new (a class, an activity with your friends, etc.).
Think, getting out of your routine - go a different way to work, take an afternoon off to see a movie, etc. (want a few more ideas? Check out my Rut Busters!)
WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT?
Defining what adventure means to you and sprinkling that into your life is essential for several reasons:
Gets you out of your routine - life doesn’t need to be boring. Adventure allows you to mix it up!
Helps you find your way - trying new things opens the door to new people, new sides of ourselves, and new opportunities. You never know where it’ll lead you.
Learn more about yourself - When you get outside of your comfort zone, you get to see yourself from a new angle. You learn more about you and what you need in your life.
Allows you to have some fun - If nothing else, it gives you a chance to let your hair down and have a little fun (which will keep you younger!).
IDEAS FOR FINDING ADVENTURE
So, now that you’re inspired to take some action and invite adventure into your life, you may be wondering where to start. I have a few ideas for you...
Take a new class - what have you always wanted to learn to do? Cooking, painting, woodworking, knitting, whitewater rafting, a new language, etc.
Explore locally - pick somewhere within a 2-hour radius of where you live that you’ve never been. Hop in the car and take the backroads to get there. See what you find along the way!
Travel - while you don’t have to do something as big as travel, but if you have the means, take the time and get out of town.
Find local groups - Check meetups.com for local events, look for art studios or schools nearby, check continuing ed classes at the local colleges. You can even do online classes if that works better for your schedule.
Adventure doesn’t have to take a lot of money or time, but it does need you to make a commitment to yourself.
Life is meant to be experienced, not endured. Defining adventure on your terms and inviting it into your life will help get you unstuck and deepen your relationship with yourself.
To help you get started, I've created a workbook for my email community to dig into this and find their version of adventure (along with why they're craving adventure and how to invite it in!). It's the perfect way to kick off summer!
My email community enjoys weekly emails on topics that explore finding their purpose and creating the life they crave (plus a few other related topics). I also provide them with workbooks, journal prompts, audios, and other goodies to explore what they’re craving, what’s getting in their way, making self-care a priority, and how to make the life they desire happen.
In this workbook you will gain clarity on what adventure means to you and how it will look in your life.
If you’d like to get in on the fun, join my email community by clicking the button below and as a bonus and big thank you, I’ll send you this workbook so you too can dig in and start finding your purpose!