Why You Need to Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable


Spoiler alert: we get stuck in life because we get comfortable.

There’s nothing wrong with being comfortable, per se.  Cruising along in our comfort zone is even necessary from time to time so we give our brains a break and we don’t burn out.

But, the problem of staying in our comfort zone is that we get stuck in a routine, and we don’t know how to get out of it.

Eventually, what’s easy and comfortable starts to feel mundane and boring.  But, we’ve carved that rut so deeply, that we don’t know how to climb out, or the idea of doing things entirely differently scares the bejesus out of us, so we don’t do it.

When we reach this place - which is quite common - we feel frustrated and overwhelmed.  Eventually, we give up trying to change anything and resolve ourselves to waiting until we retire, or the kids have grown up and moved out for things to change.

That’s no way to live!  We don’t have to give in to being stuck.  Whether we realize it or not, we have the ability to step off the hamster wheel and engage in life in a new way.

But, what tends to get in our way is the fact that it’ll require us to get uncomfortable.  In fact, we may have to get wildly uncomfortable to reignite a spark in our life!

But, guess what...we’ll survive, and by getting comfortable being uncomfortable, we’ll thrive.



While trying to stay on top of everything life throws our way, we get into routines.  Routines aren’t inherently bad...they save us time and energy.

But, when we lean on that crutch too often, we create a comfortable life that starts to bore us after a while.

Here’s the thing:  when we get comfortable in life, we settle in life.  

As humans, we want to avoid anything that makes us feel bad, awkward or, vulnerable.  So, we enjoy taking a path that avoids all of these unpleasant emotional experiences.

We look for the easy path - one where we won’t fall, look like a failure, feel nervous or anxious.

When it comes to being comfortable, it only happens when we’re very familiar with the place, action, person, event, etc.  That means we don’t have to try too hard, think too hard, or work too hard. We can glide through with minimal effort.

But the cost of all of this settling and sliding through life is that we’re living a half-life.  We become zombies trying to make it through each day without ever fully engaging in anything.

It’s no wonder when we’ve been living this life, after a while, we start to get bored and question if this is all there is to life.  We become aware of cravings for more, even though it’s been so long since we indulged in anything outside of our routine, that we don’t even know what ‘more’ is!

There are several options for getting unstuck when we’re bored and need a change, but one of the most effective ways to bust out of our ruts is to start getting uncomfortable.


Here’s the stick-your-fingers-in-your-ears-because-you-don’t-want-to-hear-it-truth: the things we really want in life will require us to get uncomfortable.

Think about some of the things you’ve done in the past that have been wildly uncomfortable (at first!), but lead to something really awesome…

  • An interview for your dream job

  • A first date with the person you’d been crushing on for a while

  • Asking your boss for a raise

These are just a few of the obvious tasks we have to do in life to get what we want (the dream job, a loving partner and relationship, the money we deserve).

But, sometimes, those uncomfortable activities are not as obvious.  We might need to pitch ourselves for a position that doesn’t exist in our company or quit our super-safe day job to grow the business we’ve dreamed about in our sleep.  Maybe it means striking up a conversation with the stranger standing next to us in the Starbucks line, or standing on a stage in front of 500 people.

Getting uncomfortable builds confidence and knocks down those self-imposed walls that we’ve carefully built around ourselves over the years.

Here’s the thing about getting uncomfortable...it’s not going to kill us.  Every time we allow ourselves to get uncomfortable, we exercise that muscle, and it gets easier the next time.


Someone very wise once said, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is outside your comfort zone.”  We’ve all seen that quote pop up on Pinterest or Instagram, but most of us read it without too much thought.

But, it’s SO true!  Let me phrase it a little differently:  Everything we crave in life will likely only come our way by getting uncomfortable.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that you’ve gotten uncomfortable before and you’re still here to tell about it.  In fact, if you were to do the same thing again, it wouldn’t be nearly as uncomfortable, so pat yourself on the back for crossing that hump!

When we plow ahead knowing that we’re going to feel awkward, vulnerable, and uncomfortable and accomplish what we think we can’t, we feel like a rock star afterward! The thrill of success and knowing it came as a result of feeling so out of our element makes sweetens the victory and makes us SO happy that we took the plunge!  

Here’s my tip for today:  use your discomfort as a compass.  When you feel that not-so-pleasant feeling, explore it and follow it, because chances are, whatever is on the other side of it, is precisely what you need in your life.

So, how are you going to challenge your comfort zone today?