Posts tagged August 2017
The Mental Side of Self-Care

Let’s be honest, self-care is hard work.  

It’s not just treating yourself to a day at the spa or indulging in an afternoon of ‘me-time.' These are certainly ways of caring for yourself, but self-care goes much deeper.

To really take care of YOU, there’s a lot of mental work that has to happen first. Doing this level of work allows for a deeper connection with yourself and enables you to establish a self-care routine that you can maintain on an on going basis.

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5 Reasons Why You Need to Say NO

No one would be shocked by the statement that women have a hard time saying no. It’s what lies at the heart of feeling taken advantage of, burned out, walked on, and inevitably leads to overextending yourself.

Sound familiar?

You know you need to say no, but you just can’t bring yourself to utter that magic little word.

There are a variety of reasons why women tend to struggle with this, but regardless of the why, this inability to say no holds you back and prevents you from taking care of yourself.

Women are not born with an inability to say no.  They’ve been taught this throughout their lives.  

Fortunately, what you’ve learned can always be unlearned!

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Tools to Get Through Your Midlife Awakening

Simply put, a Midlife Awakening is the phase where women transition through the midlife years.  It’s a time of tuning into yourself, discovering who you are, and stepping into your power.  It happens for all women and, typically, it starts in the late 30s (but since everyone is different, it can hit a little earlier or later).  

I’ve talked about it before, but basically, it’s when you start to feel unsettled in your life, and new questions start taking root in your mind.

Newsflash, women aren’t like men.  While men go through a midlife crisis, women go through their own midlife transition.  But, women aren’t in crisis mode, and as I’ve talked to women in this phase of life, they really don’t resonate with the word ‘crisis’!

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It's Okay to NOT Love Everything About Yourself

I’m a big fan of all things self-love.  

In fact, I don't think you can fully accept love from others if you don’t love yourself.  If you can’t love yourself, you’ll never truly believe that others can love you, flaws and all.

But, for a lot of people, the idea of unconditionally loving yourself can be a bit daunting!

Let’s be honest, we all have things about ourselves that we just don’t love, but does that mean we’re falling off the self-love train?

Nope!

It is possible to love yourself while not loving all the pieces of yourself!

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The Dark Side of Control

CONTROL…a 7 letter word that seems rather harmless, right?

For most people, maintaining control of their lives enables them to stay on top of things, or to have the “discipline” to achieve their goals.  

Yet, exerting too much control can actually have the opposite effect.  

When you try to control every aspect of your life, it's not uncommon for things to turn out the way you want.  Let's face it, you put in a ton of effort to ensure that outcome!  But, unfortunately, that leads you to believe that control is a good thing (stick with me here!).  

The reality is...control has a darker side.  

When you are controlling every tiny aspect of your life, you stop yourself from stretching further than you can imagine.  You end up living smaller than you’d like and you can’t even see that.

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13 Ways to Love Yourself Everyday

Loving yourself...

That's a hot topic these days and with good reason.  While most people long for others to love them, the most important person that can love you is….YOU!  

When you love yourself, you respect yourself and appear stronger and confident.  You establish your self-worth and fire up your internal joy.  When all of this happens, you walk away from those that mistreat you because you know you deserve better.  

But, for a variety of reasons, most people fail to see the benefit of loving themselves and practicing self-love on a daily basis.  

While it may take some time to learn to love yourself, there are little things you can do every single day that will help you walk that path.

If you are ready to upgrade your life, then check out my 13 ways to love yourself each and every day...

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Why Making Mistakes is a Good Thing

People don’t like to fail.  They’ll go out of their way to prevent failure because they see it as ‘bad.'  While mistakes may not be quite the same as failure, they’re on the path, and they make people feel uncomfortable.

But, mistakes are actually a good thing!  They help you tweak things, so you stay on the right course.

You can’t help but make mistakes, so instead of cursing them, learn to embrace them so you can squeeze all the goodness out of them to take the most advantage of them.

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How to Love Being Single

Women aren’t supposed to love being single.  It flies in the face of convention.  Society (and nosy relatives) tell women they should be coupled up or on the constant quest to find the next man in their life.

But, to love being single means you love where you are in your life, regardless of who’s in it and that, my dear, is when you are living a life of your own design where you are fully in control.

Just because you love being single doesn’t mean you don’t want to be in a relationship (it might, but the don’t necessarily go hand in hand).

The beauty of loving being single is that it frees you up to be in control of your life, your choices, your place in life, and your happiness.

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