Posts tagged July 2017
Why You Need Solo Adventures

Adventure...it’s the #1 thing women tell me they are craving more of in their lives. Yet, they’re doing nothing to make it happen.

By the time we hit a certain age, most people start to feel like they’re in a rut and want to feel a bit more excitement.  The daily to-do’s and responsibilities become mundane.  

Life becomes a routine.

The thrill of adventure is something most people desire, but few put into practice.

Fear, time, lack of creativity, and money are just a few of the excuses I hear that get in the way of adding more adventure to life.

But, the thirst for something new and exciting persists.  

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Living a Fulfilling Life Leads to Your Purpose

As I’ve talked with women via my Coffee Chat project, I’ve discovered something...the more fulfilled a woman is in her life (family, friends, activities, job, etc.), the less of a quest she’s on to find her ‘purpose’ and the happier she is.

What an incredible discovery!

Some women are dying to figure out their ‘purpose, ’ and I think that’s a worthy exploration if that's you (I’ve been on it myself!).

But, it can be a lot easier to find things that fulfill you - even if your 'purpose' isn't tied to it - because, that alone, may be all you need to love your life fully.

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What a Midlife Awakening Feels Like

If you google ‘midlife crisis,' you’ll think men are the only ones that experience this rite of passage.

Wrong!

Women go through a midlife crisis phase, too.  Why? Because, to some degree, everyone experiences this as part of the aging process.

But, if you read through all the articles and books that focus on anything related to midlife crises, you’ll walk away with a very different picture of what this experience is like for women.

Spoiler alert...women are not like men.  Our experience of nearly everything, including a midlife crisis, is different.

I prefer to think of this phase of life as a Midlife Awakening.

Since there’s not a lot of resources out there for women who may be in the midst of this confusing time of life, I wanted to write about my experience with my Midlife Awakening.

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Dating in Your 40s: Why You Should Never Settle

Dating in Your 40s is a different experience than dating in your 20s.  You’ve been around the block a few times and, likely have a marriage or long term relationship (or two!), in the rear view mirror.

You know relationships are hard, and you’re acutely aware of how challenging it is to find a quality partner.

You’re also hitting the phase of life where you’re questioning life and craving more purpose and meaning in how you spend your time.  While you’re not “old,” you’re starting to become aware of the passing of time, and that likely produces thoughts of who you will be spending all that time with as you start to enter a new phase of life.

As you’re looking ahead to your 50s, 60s, etc. you don’t want to spend those years alone.

So with that perfect storm brewing, if you’re like a lot of people, when you find someone, you settle.

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Why You Should Reconnect with Your Inner Child

Children have the right idea - they play, get dirty, laugh, and don’t take themselves too seriously.  Somewhere along the way, society says that to be an adult, you have to rein that in.

Most folks lose touch with their inner child as they navigate adulthood and take on the many responsibilities that come with being a grownup.  As a result, a lot of people lose sight of who they really are, and they forget to chase what they truly want.

Reconnecting with your inner child helps you stay connected to your true self and even get a glimpse into your purpose in life.

There are many benefits to reconnecting with your inner child, and even the most hardened adult has an inner child inside waiting to be rediscovered.

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Your Permission Slip: Take a Break

Too many of women work themselves to the point of exhaustion.

Between their job, families, social obligations (i.e. volunteering, church, etc.), they have zero time to take a break and just relax. It usually takes getting sick to force a lot of women to slow down (but that’s not re-energizing downtime).

On the rare occasion when they do take some time for themselves, they can’t fully enjoy it because of feeling guilty over not doing what they’re *supposed* to do or something for someone else.

It’s time to stop this nonsense and embrace the idea of taking breaks.

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Finding Yourself After Divorce

Almost ten years ago, I divorced my husband of three years.  I don’t regret it and consider both the marriage and divorce to be one of the more defining times of my life.

It can easy to envelope yourself in self-pity and bitter resentment, but I can promise you that won’t get you anywhere.

After going through a divorce, you have to rediscover who you are and what you want from your life.

Freedom after divorce is finding yourself and that place where you let go of the past and embrace the future...a future designed solely by you.

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How to Create a Balanced Life

When I talk to women in my 100 Coffee Chats research project, ‘balance’ is a word I hear a lot.

Our world is one where everyone lives chaotic lives with a lot on their plates. You feel stressed and burned out. To offset the madness, you crave more ‘balance’ in our lives.  

‘Balance’ is seen as the magic elixir to all of life’s problems.  

When thinking of a ‘balanced life,' most people see it as one with…

  • More downtime
  • Less stress
  • Time to do the things they truly desire

 

Sound familiar?

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