Posts tagged May 2017
Why You Need More Adventure in Your Life (and how to get it!)

Most people are on auto-pilot.

Most people do the same things every day, every weekend, every month, and every season. It’s like the movie Groundhog Day.   

As I’ve been talking to women in my 100 Coffee Chats project, I keep hearing how they want more adventure in their life.

They’re bored. They feel life used to be more exciting and now it’s the same thing every day.

They have nothing to look forward to and each day is a repeat of the day before. But, they crave it that extra spice in life (one woman said she needed muy caliente in her life).

Just because you get older and take on more responsibilities does not mean that you have to give up on having adventures in your life.

No, you may not be able to do it quite as spontaneously as you did in the past, and your adventures at 40-something may look entirely different than at 20-something.  In spite of these differences, it’s still within your ability to make more adventure happen.

Breaking out of the norm and inviting a little adventure into your life is what living is all about!

If you’re doing the exact same thing every single day, is that really living?

Read More
Stop Chasing the Wrong Things in Life {Chase These Instead!}

We’re all chasing something.

But, sadly, most people are spending their lives chasing the wrong things.

How do you know if you’re chasing the wrong things?  You’ll likely feel restless, frustrated, unfulfilled, and unhappy, just to name a few.

There’s a sense of wanting something more but not quite being able to put your finger on it.

Today, we’ll take a closer look at why we tend to go for the wrong things, what not to chase, and most importantly, what you should chase in life.

Read More
Why You Need to Be Your Own Best Friend

Best friends aren’t perfect, but we love them just as they are.  Sure, they frustrate us and sometimes even hurt us, but we believe in them, and we’re always there for them.

We’re they’re cheerleaders, support system, partner in crime and we want only the best for them.

If they’re going for a new job, we know they’re the best person for it, and if they don’t get it, then we see the company that rejected them as idiots for not picking her.

We do all of this because we love her and it allows us to see beauty in her flaws.

Now, if we think about how we treat ourselves, for most of us, it’s an entirely different picture.

We’re our worst enemy and biggest bully.

We doubt ourselves, only see our flaws (and even make up flaws just to criticize ourselves), say horrible things in our heads about ourselves, get in our own way, and abuse/punish ourselves.

We extend compassion and grace to our best friend, but loathing and disappointment to ourselves.

Imagine how different you would be if you treated yourself the way you treat your best friend.

Read More
11 Types of Girlfriends You Need in Your 40's

Connection is a big part of feeling whole.

As I talk to women in my 100 Coffee Chats project and ask them what’s missing in their lives, ‘friends’ come up frequently.

Yes, they have friends, but the friendships aren’t as close as they were when they were younger, or they’re not local.

Women in their 40s are craving connection with other women.

While there are many reasons real friendships are harder to come by in your 40s, that doesn’t mean you can’t make it a priority.

As you assess who is currently in your life, it’s important to also look at what types of friends are missing in your life.

Read More
Why You Don't Want to Silence Your Inner Bully

You know the voice...that mean inner critic that is always whispering terrible things to sabotage your best of intentions.

How often has it stopped you in your tracks, made you doubt yourself, then play it much safer than you originally planned?

I call it the Inner Bully because it’s verbally beating you up, taunting you, and controlling your actions.

That super critical voice is a form of self-abuse, but believe it or not, it has a purpose.

Despite the term ‘bully’ or ‘critic,' the voice comes from a loving place within you.  It’s trying to protect you from getting hurt.  

Its intentions are pure, but it’s methods are not.

Read More
8 No BS Tips for Dating in Your 40's

Dating in your 40's is a different ballgame than dating in your 20's.  Regardless of whether you’ve never been married or, more than likely, you’re getting back out there after ending a marriage or a long term relationship.

Dating in your 40's doesn’t have to be a drag - it can be a lot of fun!

It’s all in how you approach it.

In fact, in my experience, it’s a LOT more fun to date in my 40s than it was in my 20s.

But, because dating is so different between now than in your past, let’s talk about a few useful tips to make the experience even more rewarding.

Read More
Why You Need to Make Time for Solo Time

Everyone is busy - work, the gym, errands, the kids, friends, dating, etc.

Women tend to be responsible for not only their own lives, but they typically shoulder the bulk of the responsibility within the family dynamic.  Not to mention, trying to nurture and grow their careers.

The result - there’s no time left for you.

While the crazy schedules and never ending to-do list are somewhat to blame, women themselves are also partly to blame.  

Women try to be martyrs.  They see value in themselves when they ‘do it all', take care of everyone’s needs and everything else that goes into being the ‘perfect’ mom, partner, employee, boss, daughter, friend, etc.

In the process of this madness, they sacrifice themselves.

Sound familiar?

All you’re doing is harming your own health (physical, emotional, and mental) while not providing your best self for those in your life.

Read More
How to Improve Your Self-Worth

How strong is your sense of self-worth?

Your self-worth is arguably one of the most important parts of yourself to work on and strengthen because it is your foundation.

Your self-worth is behind every decision you make, every thought you have about yourself, and how you approach your life.

A lot of people confuse self-worth with self-esteem or assume they’re two words for the same thing. But, they’re not. While connected, they’re two different things.

Your self-esteem will ebb and flow, even if you have a healthy self-esteem.  But your self-worth is unwavering.

Your self-esteem is a product of your self-worth.

So, if you want to make changes to your life, start with your self-worth.

Read More