Posts tagged Purpose
How Your Inner Critic Blocks You from Your Purpose

Figuring out our purpose is one of the chief desires of women in their 40s navigating their Midlife Muck.

We’ve either never found our purpose, or what was once our purpose is no longer serving us.  But, as we hit our 40s, we feel a deepening need to discover more meaning in our lives.

It can be challenging to attempt to figure this out at this stage in life.  In many ways, it feels like starting over (which isn’t necessarily the case!).

But, in the quest to answer those deep questions that keep us up at night (“Why am I here?”, “What am I leaving behind?”, “What can I do to feel I’m contributing more to life?”) we typically seek something new.

For many, that quest leads to fear, overwhelm, and confusion.  We feel stuck, and we don’t know how to get past this to find our purpose and start living it.

What we don’t realize is that in many cases, there’s something within us sabotaging our efforts to find the answers to those questions:  our Inner Critic.

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Why You Don't Have to Get Paid to Live Your Purpose

In today’s world, we’re blessed by the abundance of opportunities to “start over” by launching our own businesses, changing careers, etc.

But, not everyone wants, or can, make these drastic career changes!

As we approach 40 and cross into, what I call the midlife transition period, we start craving more from our lives and the desire to find our purpose takes root.

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Living a Fulfilling Life Leads to Your Purpose

As I’ve talked with women via my Coffee Chat project, I’ve discovered something...the more fulfilled a woman is in her life (family, friends, activities, job, etc.), the less of a quest she’s on to find her ‘purpose’ and the happier she is.

What an incredible discovery!

Some women are dying to figure out their ‘purpose, ’ and I think that’s a worthy exploration if that's you (I’ve been on it myself!).

But, it can be a lot easier to find things that fulfill you - even if your 'purpose' isn't tied to it - because, that alone, may be all you need to love your life fully.

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3 Practical Steps to Finding and Living Your Purpose

The idea of finding one’s purpose in life can feel daunting.  

  • How do I narrow down what I’m supposed to do with my life?

  • What if I get it wrong?

  • What if I don’t like this purpose 5, 10, 15 years from now?

  • What if my purpose means I have to change my life completely?

I get it: it feels scary to face the reality that the life you’ve created for yourself doesn’t quite fit anymore and things need to change.  

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Why we Crave “More” from Life after 40

One of the more baffling things we experience as we approach, or pass, our 40th birthdays is a growing desire for “more.”

A nagging desire takes hold and pulsates as we move about our all too familiar routine:  “There must be more to life than this…”

We’ve spent the better part of our adult lives creating a life that we thought we wanted, or that we felt we should; but now, that we’re living that life (or, aspects of that life), it doesn’t quite feel like enough.

What’s up with that?!

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7 Reasons Why You Need a Passion Project in Your 40s

Passion projects…

Sounds a little intriguing, right?  Most of us have heard the term and may even have an idea of what it is, but for many women, the idea of dedicating some of their precious time to something on the side isn’t high on the to-do list.

But, let me ask you this...have you ever been so engrossed in something that you lost all sense of time?  You're so completely absorbed by the task at hand that when you look up, you realize several hours have passed, yet you don’t feel tired.  

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Why You Need Both Adventure & Inventure In Your Life

If I asked you if you knew yourself well, I’m betting you’d say ‘of course’ and then look at me like I have a second head. Right?

But, here’s a surprising fact: most people, don’t actually know themselves all that well (I don’t have stats to back that up, so it’s based on my experience with working and talking with people!).  

Most people think they know themselves well, but in reality, they only know what’s on the surface.

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6 Ways to Boost Your Resilience & Thrive in Life

The summer I was 23, I moved 1,000 miles away from home (to a place I’d never been, to an apartment I’d never seen, and with roommates I’d never met) to start my post-college grown-up job.

It was exciting, but also terrifying!

Less than two months after I arrived at my new home, it was a beautiful, sunny Sunday afternoon and I was just starting to feel settled in when I got a call that my dad had suffered a massive heart attack and died earlier that morning.

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Find Your Purpose by Setting Goals for Your Passions

Setting goals…its a topic I love to talk about and one that people love to learn about.  There are countless articles, books, etc. about setting goals to get further in life, make more money, or to lose weight.

But what about the things in life that light us up?  For some, that’s one in the same with what they get paid to do, but for others (i.e. most of us), we put our hobbies and passions on the back burner because we’re so busy with our jobs, families, or other adult responsibilities.  We relegate these to ‘someday’.

But, our passions are the things we need to make time for in our lives.  In fact, I don’t see why we shouldn’t also be making goals for those passions!

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PURPOSE: What to do When Your Career Isn't Enough

In America, our careers define us.  

Whether we’re making small talk at a party or on a first date, one of the first questions asked is ‘so, what do you do?’.  

What we do is part of our identity, but, unfortunately, for so many people, what they do for a living is not in alignment with their gifts, desires, and interests.

It’s not easy to find a job or land a career that meets that criteria because most of us haven’t spent the time to understand what we need in order to have a fulfilling job.

Also, for many people, they see work as just a means to an end: a paycheck, and if they’re lucky, good benefits.

Some people were lucky and embarked on a career they find rewarding. But, for many of us, we’re not so lucky.

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