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How to Deepen your Connections in your 40s

From my conversations with women over 40 (and even those in their 30s), having more meaningful and deeper connections rings in as one of the top cravings experienced.

Friendships that were close at one point have simmered to occasional coffee catch-ups that barely graze the surface of what’s happening in our lives.

Spouses or long-term partners have gone from hot and all-encompassing to an almost roommate status (and that’s for those that are lucky!).  And, for many, the partnerships have fizzled out entirely.

Connection is a basic human need.  We crave it, yet we don’t create an environment for it flourish and thrive.

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Feeling Stuck? Why Getting Into It, Will Get You Out of It

I talk a lot around here about getting unstuck from a life that feels routine and unfulfilling.  It’s a topic that hits home for me, having felt this way in the past and always being in the process of reinventing myself.

But, I know it’s a state that many people can relate to because for many, by the time they get into the groove of life, they realize they’ve spent many years creating the wrong life, and they don’t know what to do about it.

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Find Your Purpose by Setting Goals for Your Passions

Setting goals…its a topic I love to talk about and one that people love to learn about.  There are countless articles, books, etc. about setting goals to get further in life, make more money, or to lose weight.

But what about the things in life that light us up?  For some, that’s one in the same with what they get paid to do, but for others (i.e. most of us), we put our hobbies and passions on the back burner because we’re so busy with our jobs, families, or other adult responsibilities.  We relegate these to ‘someday’.

But, our passions are the things we need to make time for in our lives.  In fact, I don’t see why we shouldn’t also be making goals for those passions!

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PURPOSE: What to do When Your Career Isn't Enough

In America, our careers define us.  

Whether we’re making small talk at a party or on a first date, one of the first questions asked is ‘so, what do you do?’.  

What we do is part of our identity, but, unfortunately, for so many people, what they do for a living is not in alignment with their gifts, desires, and interests.

It’s not easy to find a job or land a career that meets that criteria because most of us haven’t spent the time to understand what we need in order to have a fulfilling job.

Also, for many people, they see work as just a means to an end: a paycheck, and if they’re lucky, good benefits.

Some people were lucky and embarked on a career they find rewarding. But, for many of us, we’re not so lucky.

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How Finding Your Purpose Gets You Unstuck

“What am I supposed to do with my life?”

Sounds like a question a 20-year-old college student would obsess over, right?

Maybe they do, but I doubt they lose any sleep over it the way someone with 20+ years of life experience post-college!

For most of us, we did what we were supposed to do, or what seemed like the best options for a successful life, at the time.  But, unfortunately, for many, it doesn’t turn out to be a path to a fulfilling and rewarding life.

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Purpose, Passion, and Callings: Finding Yours and Changing Your Life

Do you ever wonder why you’re here?  Or, how you’re supposed to make a difference in this world?  

You know you’re meant to be doing something worthy, something that contributes to society, something that allows you to go to sleep every night feeling good.  

Feeling meaningful.

Feeling fulfilled.

Ever felt like that?

If you have, trust me...you are not alone.

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11 Promises to Make to Love Yourself More

Here's the thing...you were never taught to love yourself.

Small children naturally love others.  You were likely taught how to treat and not treat others, especially those you love.  You were probably also taught to accept other people’s differences and not bully them or belittle them.

But, I'm betting no one ever took the time to teach you how to use those same principles to love yourself.

So, as an adult, you likely beat yourself up over minor things and magnify your imperfections.  The impact of this type of hypercritical scrutiny is self-sabotage and constant internal friction (i.e. stress).

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Don’t Fear Your 40s: Why this is the decade you’ll love

Most people under the age of 30 see 40+ as ‘old.’  

Despite the fact that everyone, if they’re lucky, gets old (because let’s be honest, it certainly beats the alternative!), it’s something modern society tells us we should fear because getting older is akin to becoming irrelevant (which is so NOT true!).  

The years leading up to the big 4-0 can be quite the mental rollercoaster.  It’s a mix of trying to accept it but resisting it and fighting it with every turn.

But, let me speak from personal experience here:  40 isn’t what it used to be!

No longer does being in your 40s automatically make you dumpy, frumpy, and behind-the-times.

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Stuck in a Rut? Time to Shake Things Up and Start Living Life!

Life...it’s a series of responsibilities, tasks, and routines that leave you feeling like you’re caught on a hamster wheel and can’t get off.  

Every day is the same thing - get up, rush around to get ready for the day, race to work, work, race home (while perhaps picking up the kids, grabbing groceries, etc.), make dinner, clean up the house/put the kids to bed/etc., and finally falling into bed exhausted.  The next day, you guessed it...the same damn thing!

What happened to the woman that you used to be?  Who had it all figured out, who didn’t succumb to a boring routine because she just did what she wanted to do?

What happened to her???

She grew up and became an adult...

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Create a Support Team for Your Midlife Awakening, Part 2

You’re changing.

While this is exciting, it’s also scary. Peeling back layers of your life (and yourself!) that don’t fit anymore is freeing, but leaving behind what’s familiar and comfortable is scary.

You have lived a good life up until now, and you’re grateful for it, but you crave more.

More adventure, more connection, more purpose…

You may not know exactly what that will look like yet, but there’s something inside you that is propelling you towards finding it.

Along the way, having a group of personal cheerleaders on your side can help you when things get tough.

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