Why You Need to Prioritize Adventure in Midlife

Women in midlife (i.e., those near and over 40!) tell me they’re bored and need more excitement in their lives.  They want to have more fun and feel like they used to before getting tied down with responsibilities, parenting, jobs, etc.

Hear hear!!

As we enter our 40s, most of us are starting to emerge from underneath the weight of starting a career and raising a family.  We have a little more space in our hearts, and we start to crave “more.”

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Why Romantic Relationships Matter in Midlife (and how to improve or find yours!)

Marriages and long-term relationships in midlife can feel hard - whether you’re rekindling a fading flame, deciding to walk away and start over, or getting back on the horse and entering the dating game; it’s challenging at this phase of life.

There are a few key things that make this so complicated:

  1. Dealing with your own identity crisis via the midlife transition

  2. Feeling lower confidence in what you’re bringing to the table

  3. Pressed for time because you’re so busy and wearing so many hats

But, in spite of these challenges, pursuing a deep, meaningful, and satisfying romantic relationship is well worth the effort.

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How to Make Friends in your 40s

Humans crave connection.  

Some people crave lots of connection and others want lots of solitude (but, they still need interaction with others).

When you’re young, you have access to others your age via school and make tons of friends.

As adults, it gets harder.

Yes, you’re surrounded by adults in every phase of your life - work, activities, the gym, etc.  but life gets in the way.  Everyone is busy, and friendships drop lower on the list of priorities.

In many cases, friendships weaken and drift away.  Or, maybe you’ve moved to a new city where you don’t know anyone.

I’ve talked to so many women in their 30s and 40s that crave female friendships.  

But, how do you make new friends when you’re busy and don’t have much free time?

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5 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself

When we think of deepening our “connections” in our lives, we typically think of those around us - partner, family, friends, etc.

But the most important relationship to work on and strengthen is the one with ourselves.  Our personal relationship is the foundation of all of the other relationships in our lives.

To look at it from a different perspective, the one common link among all of the relationships we have is ourselves.  That means, if we don’t establish a healthy self-relationship, creating healthy and meaningful relationships with others is more next to impossible.

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Over 40? Why Your Relationships Matter More than Ever

As human beings, we’re wired to connect with other humans.  This is something that has evolved over the thousands of years that we’ve been roaming this Earth.

Historically, and evolutionarily, speaking, we needed strong connections to survive.  Whether it was to ward off invaders or to rely on family and neighbors to raise children (it takes a village!), we, as humans, have a reliance on others.

Today, we may not have a strong need to fight off invaders, and we pay doctors and day care centers to help raise the kiddos, but we still need solid human connections to thrive

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Why You Don't Have to Get Paid to Live Your Purpose

In today’s world, we’re blessed by the abundance of opportunities to “start over” by launching our own businesses, changing careers, etc.

But, not everyone wants, or can, make these drastic career changes!

As we approach 40 and cross into, what I call the midlife transition period, we start craving more from our lives and the desire to find our purpose takes root.

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Living a Fulfilling Life Leads to Your Purpose

As I’ve talked with women via my Coffee Chat project, I’ve discovered something...the more fulfilled a woman is in her life (family, friends, activities, job, etc.), the less of a quest she’s on to find her ‘purpose’ and the happier she is.

What an incredible discovery!

Some women are dying to figure out their ‘purpose, ’ and I think that’s a worthy exploration if that's you (I’ve been on it myself!).

But, it can be a lot easier to find things that fulfill you - even if your 'purpose' isn't tied to it - because, that alone, may be all you need to love your life fully.

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3 Practical Steps to Finding and Living Your Purpose

The idea of finding one’s purpose in life can feel daunting.  

  • How do I narrow down what I’m supposed to do with my life?

  • What if I get it wrong?

  • What if I don’t like this purpose 5, 10, 15 years from now?

  • What if my purpose means I have to change my life completely?

I get it: it feels scary to face the reality that the life you’ve created for yourself doesn’t quite fit anymore and things need to change.  

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Why we Crave “More” from Life after 40

One of the more baffling things we experience as we approach, or pass, our 40th birthdays is a growing desire for “more.”

A nagging desire takes hold and pulsates as we move about our all too familiar routine:  “There must be more to life than this…”

We’ve spent the better part of our adult lives creating a life that we thought we wanted, or that we felt we should; but now, that we’re living that life (or, aspects of that life), it doesn’t quite feel like enough.

What’s up with that?!

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