HEART + MOXIE
 

SELF LOVE + MOXIE

FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF (WITHOUT AN OUNCE OF GUILT)

 
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IT'S EXHAUSTING HATING ON YOURSELF
ALL THE TIME

 
You never take time for yourself...

You beat yourself up over not meeting your {unrealistically high} expectations...

You bully yourself by the way you talk to yourself...

You spend way too much time worrying about what others think about you...
 
These are not the signs of someone that loves herself...
 
Aren't you ready to take the time that you need to do what you want and enjoy?  

Isn't it time you feel good about everything you're accomplishing instead of only seeing what you're not doing?

Aren't you ready to be kind to yourself and be your own best friend?

Don't you deserve to stop comparing yourself to everyone else?

BUT SELF-LOVE IS SELFISH, VAIN...

 

I get it...

The idea of loving ourselves is a hard.  

We were never taught how to love ourselves.  As women, we were taught to do for others and put our own needs last.

 

If I asked you to say "I love myself!" out loud, I bet you couldn't do it.  

In fact, I bet saying "I love myself!" would even make you squirm a little bit.
 
Any of this sound familiar?
 
+ You feel taking time for yourself is selfish

+ You struggle to tell other people 'no' when you don't have the time or desire to help them

+ You constantly worry about what others think of you (and it impacts the choices you make)

+ You look in the mirror and your critical eye spots everything that is wrong with you

+ You tell yourself that you are too fat, too stupid, too ugly, etc. on a regular basis

+ You are a slave to your to-do list and never cut yourself any slack

+ You can't remember the last time you did something just because it's fun or you enjoyed it

+ You can rattle off a list of things you'd like to change about yourself so your life would be better

+ You hold yourself to a much higher standard than you do anyone else in your life
 
You're not old, but...

...you're not 20-something, either.  As a woman in your 30s or 40s, you’re in a transition phase.

 

 You've started to realize that while you’re not old, you’re also not necessarily “young” anymore and it's scary!  

You're moving into a new phase of life and everything that you've known about yourself and how to live doesn't seem to fit anymore.

 

You're starting to crave more from yourself and your life.  Experiences start to carry more weight and you ache for more fulfillment and purpose to how you spend your days.

 

Yet, you're not sure where to start or what to do to bring in that 'more' and make the changes you know need to happen. 

Learning to love yourself fully is the first step to navigating through your life with more intention and grace.
 
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WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU
DARED TO LOVE YOURSELF?

 

When you dare to love yourself wholly and completely you know your thoughts, feelings, wishes, and dreams are worth taking a stand.  When you love yourself, you take that stand without an ounce of guilt, lame excuses, or unnecessary apologies.

You know you are worth it.
 
When you fall in love with yourself, your life changes...

You set realistic expectations

“Blue

No more to-do lists that only Superwoman could achieve

You accept yourself (including your body!) exactly as it is without judgment or resentment

“Blue

You see those extra 10 lbs as proof of living a full life, not as proof of a lack of self-discipline

You know your strengths and you celebrate them

“Blue

Amazing singer? You happily rock karaoke night

You say 'no' when you don't have the time or energy

“Blue

"No, I can't do that this weekend. Perhaps next time!"

You take time to recharge and refuel so you are able to be the best version of yourself

“Blue

You set aside Sunday afternoon for a home spa day after a long, stressful week

You cut the toxic relationships out of your life

“Blue

The ex-boyfriend that you keep around...bye bye!

You forgive yourself when you make a mistake because you know you're human

“Blue

"Hey, self...I'm doing the best I can and that's okay"

You take charge of the critical voice in your head and shut it down

“Blue

"Actually, self...yes, I CAN do this, so shut it!"

You believe in yourself and you take chances on new things

“Blue

You sign up for the French class and book that flight to Paris!

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Week1

WEEK 1: Defining Self-Love

In order to fall in love with ourselves, we have to understand what that means. You'll learn why women struggle with loving themselves, the myths around self-love, and end the week with a working definition of what self-love would mean for you.
Week2

Week 2: Self-Talk + Awareness

Self-awareness is the key to all of the rest of the work you'll do in this program. You'll learn how to become more self-aware on a daily basis. You'll also meet your Inner Bully as you start to pay close attention to how you talk to yourself while developing a new relationship with yourself.
 
Week3

Week 3: Self-Acceptance + Forgiveness

After becoming more self-aware and healing your relationship with your Inner Bully, you'll start to learn how to accept yourself exactly as you are. As you begin to accept yourself, you'll also learn how to forgive yourself and why it's so important to love yourself.
Week4

Week 4: Self-Care

The final piece is to learn how to practice self-care in a loving way to nurture your relationship with yourself. You'll learn what self-care is and begin to establish new habits to take the best care of yourself on a daily basis.
 

 

Self Love + Moxie is closed for enrollment!


Join the waiting list to find out when registration opens later this year...
 
 
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IT HAPPENED FOR RONJA

In 2012, I realized I was living a life far, far away from my dreams and my full potential  After another afternoon on the couch crying too many tears, I decided I had to make a change. Self-love was one of the many things I started to work on to make that change.  But, it was a hard nut to crack.

Fast forward to 2015, I was still learning, changing and growing when I started to work with Vicky. My life was full of surprises and every time I talked to Vicky, there were a lot of new changes happening in my life.  At one point, we started to talk about self-love in ways I had never thought of before.

Through working with Vicky, I realized that self-love isn’t just allowing yourself to take a day off, or pampering yourself to a nice hot baths or treating yourself to a little something now and then. That is part of it, yes, but with Vicky, I learned that it is so much more.  It is about saying no to others and to opportunities when it doesn’t feel right. It is about making room for what you really desire. It is about going after your dreams and finding the courage to stand up for yourself and your dreams.

Learning to love myself has really changed how I’m living my life.  I stepped into the light and started to embrace the big visions and dreams I have and I started to take action to achieve those dreams.  I also try to make daily choices towards loving myself. I meditate, I journal, I check in with what I am doing and how I am feeling. Exploring what it means to love myself has brought a sense of peace and serenity to my life. A mindset that I bring into a new relationship and that is helping me to experience love and fun over fear and worry.

What is different for me now compared to 2012? I now have the courage to stand up for myself. I learned to believe in myself. I learned to embrace all the desires I have.  I truly feel connected with myself and have found a deep love for myself.

Of course, it’s not always easy and sometimes I forget and get caught up in my own drama, but the great thing is, in those moments Vicky and her words are just an email or a click on her website away. 

 
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This program is perfect for women who are...
 
+ Ready to stop the trash talk in their heads

+ Ready to end toxic relationships

+ Ready to unselfishly take time for themselves without feeling guilty or making excuses

+ Ready to let go of comparing their lives to everyone else's lives on Instagram, Facebook, etc.

+ Ready to stop using busy-ness as an excuse for never having any time

+ Ready to set realistic goals they can achieve instead of always setting themselves up to fail

+ Ready to accept how awesome and amazing they are right now

+ Ready to stand their ground on what they need in their life

+ Ready to get clear on who they really are, what they really want, and what they truly need

You shouldn't take this program if you...
 
- Don't believe you can ever change

- Don't feel you can find love for yourself

- Feel self-love is a waste of time

- Makes excuses or blame everyone else for the problems in your life
 
VICKY COOK
CPC, ELI-MP

I'm Vicky and I started my own personal journey towards deepening my relationship with myself in my mid to late 30s.  Now in my early 40s, I love my life more than I ever have.  I'm more confident, grounded, focused, present, aware, grateful, joyful, and peaceful.

It wasn't always an easy process, but it was incredibly enlightening and empowering.

I understand feeling lost, unfulfilled, frustrated, alone, and defeated.  I've lived them, too, so you are not alone.

I choose to work with high-achieving Gen X women because I understand them and my passion is to inspire them to wake up and start living the life they crave.

+ If I change my mind, is there a refund?

I hope that won't be the case! But, if you’re not happy, I’m not happy, so I will work with you to make your experience better.

The Self Love + Moxie program is non-refundable after the start of the program (March 6, 2017) regardless of whether you participate in the group calls or complete any of the work. Any cancellations prior to the start date must be done through a written request.

+ I have a lot going on right now. How much time will this take up each week?

We always have time for the things that are important to us, so my question for you would be how important is it for you to change your life by falling in love with you?

Our group call is 1 hour per week. The lesson + workbook will take some time, but how much is dependent on how much you're willing to open up to the process. The more you dig, the more you'll get out of it.

The other exercises (challenge, writing prompts) will vary, but overall, I'd plan to spend 3-4 hours per week on the work.

+ What if I get behind?

You will always have access to the materials and the Facebook group. But, the group calls and access to Vicky will only be during the 4 weeks of the program (except those that opt for the Premium package since they will have one of their 1:1 calls post program).

+ Can I really fall in love with myself in 4 weeks?

That depends on where you are on your journey with yourself. For some, yes, it's entirely possible. As with any new relationship, falling in love takes time.

It will take intentional and focused work, so even if you aren't quite there in 4 weeks you will have learned the foundational principles in this program to carry you forward until you do indeed fall in love with yourself.

+ When do we do our calls? I work during the day...

Guess what…so do I! We will conduct our group calls on either Sunday afternoons (5:00pm EST) or Tuesday evenings (8:00pm EST). When enrolling in the course, you will have the option of which group you'd prefer to be in.

+ What if I miss a group call?

No worries! All of the calls will be recorded and available to listen for those that miss it or want to hear it all again.

+ If I opt for the upgrade to get the private calls, when do those happen?

You and I will work together to set up time for your two 1:1 calls. Ideally, we'll do one during the course and the other about one month after the course ends to check in on where you are.

+ If I opt to do the payment plans, when is the second payment due?

You will be sent an invoice for the second payment 1 month to the day after you enroll in the program and make the first payment.

+ How does coaching differ from therapy?

Great question and it’s one many people that are new to coaching ask about. Therapy is conducted by licensed practitioners. They are trained to help people overcome things from their past. They are unconcerned with what goals a client may have for their future. The therapist's objective is to help the client identify any blocks from their past that they cannot get past on their own.

Coaching, on the other hand, is working with people that aren’t held back by traumatic things from their past. Our focus is working with clients to identify how they want to optimize their life. Then we work on whatever is getting in their way and preventing them from going down those paths. Yes, we might visit the past to work through a few of the blocks, but the difference is…we don’t stay there. We find it, deal with it, and move on.

+ Is this really going to change my life?

To put it simply…yes, if you want it to! If you’re willing to do the work, show up open and honest, and get real with yourself then yes, this can and will be life changing. It’s up to you.

I won’t be giving you a magic formula or checklist to transform your life. Everyone is different and everyone has to figure out what works for them. You will have to do the work…I will provide the framework, the guidance, the support, and the space for you to dig deep within yourself, get to know the real you, discover what’s holding you back, and start to make some internal (and possibly external) changes.

I cannot guarantee any specific results from our time together…that, my dear, is up to you. I will challenge you, call you out on your own excuses and BS, but it’s up to you what you do with that. If you’re ready to change your life, trust that you have the power and wisdom already inside you to make that happen.

Disclaimer

Every one is different and at a different place on your journey. If you are willing to do the work, get vulnerable, and be open, honest, and curious with yourself, you will see positive changes in your life as a result of this program. However, I can’t make you do the work and if you choose not to, your results may not be as impactful.

I cannot guarantee specific results for anyone since that is completely in your hands. I, however, do promise to be 100% focused on you & your goals and provide a safe and trusting space for you to explore yourself and your journey. I will ask the questions to get you there, but what you decide to do is entirely up to you.

Coaching is NOT therapy and I am not a licensed therapist. If you are in need of a therapist to heal past issues, please seek that help first before exploring coaching.