Next week, I have a new writing prompts PDF that I will be releasing to those that want to Amp Up their Self-Love!
The goal of this fun freebie is to help you start to dig into what self-love means to you, what's getting in the way of loving yourself fully, and what you can do about it.
Journaling has a profound impact on allowing you to open up and make significant discoveries about yourself. When you put pen to paper, you break down the barriers between what you want to see (or don't want to see) and what's actually underneath the surface.
To give you a little preview, I thought I'd share part of my response to one of my prompts.
Most of us feel like we're on an island by ourselves when it comes to the self-doubt and insecurities we harbor behind the scenes.
None of us are exempt from those feelings! We all struggle with loving parts of ourselves. It will differ between each of us, but we can find a shared community by voicing those struggles.
Am I nervous to tear a page out of my journal and post it online for anyone to see?
But, this is me and this is part of my story.
A Peek inside my journal
PROMPT: LIST THE TOP 3 THINGS YOU STRUGGLE TO LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF
As someone that likes to focus on what I like about myself, asking me to identify the areas in which I struggle to feel the love is definitely out of my comfort zone. Do I know what those are, of course! But, I don’t want to think about them, so I definitely don’t want to write them down! But, I know facing it and getting it out tends to lessen the sting (at least that’s going to be my working theory here!).
Ok Vicky…let’s do this. Let’s power up and face down those parts of me that I don’t feel are my shining best.
1) My shyness
As a child I was painfully shy, almost selectively mute in some situations. As I grew up, I dropped most of my shyness but in certain circumstances it rears its ugly head. I don’t see it coming, but when I’m in a situation where I feel particularly out of my comfort zone or I fear being judged the most, my brain goes blank and I slip back into being shy.
I seriously hate that about myself! In those moments I want to say something, but I can’t think of anything to say and it makes me feel even worse and even more anxious which makes the shyness even worse. Fortunately, this doesn’t happen that often anymore. I’m quiet and will always be quiet (until you get to know me that is, lol) and I’m 100% okay with that, but the shyness is a part of me that I struggle to love.
2) My fear of being judged
On the heels of the last one, I really don’t love my fear of being judged by others. Its not in all situations. For the most part, I like to think I don’t care what others think of me, but I do fear them judging me. They don’t have to like me and I’m okay with that, but for them to judge me…that’s the part I fear. I don’t like that part about me because it holds me back from really putting myself out there. I’m working on it, but damn, it’s a struggle!!
3) My body
I think this is one most women can identify with so I know I'm not alone on this one. I’ve struggled with this for a long time. I’m making big strides, but I still can’t say that I love my body. If I’m honest, I’d need a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model’s body to say I love my body and that ain’t ever gonna happen! So, I know I need to keep working on this one. I don’t love my body, but I do respect all that it does for me and that’s a start.
The nice thing about thinking about the top 3 things I struggle to love about myself, is that it took me a awhile to come up with 2 of these!
If I had to come up with 4 things, I don’t think I could think of a 4th one, so that makes me feel really good. Now that I’ve identified these, though, I want/need to explore these further and examine how I can spin these around and find the good in these parts of myself. An opportunity is there and I will find it.