Doesn't Mean Life Has to be Boring
Right now, you feel like your life is on hold. Your overflowing to-do list, endless responsibilities, and keeping up appearances have you tethered to a life that doesn’t fit anymore.
Every morning, you wake up after a not-so-great night of sleep, drown yourself in coffee, and move through the day on autopilot.
You know something has to change, but you can’t see the options. You’ve worked so hard to create this amazing life and from the outside, you’re the picture of success.
You feel like you're caught in limbo and nothing is exciting anymore.
YOU FEEL STUCK.
it's time to step back into your life
If you're like most women over 40, there's a disconnect between the life you’ve carefully created for yourself over the past 20+ years, and the woman you’ve discovered yourself to be while building that life.
You’ve worked hard to achieve success in your career, your relationship, your family, your community...your life. You take pride in those accomplishments (as you should!). But, in the past few years, the life you once loved has lost its luster.
You don't feel as satisfied as you used to, and you're craving more fulfillment. Life has become routine (and dare I say boring!), and you're craving more adventure.
THE DISSATISFACTION AND STRESS YOU'RE FEELING COME FROM A MULTITUDE OF SOURCES
- You've climbed the corporate ladder and trained for years to get where you are, but now that you're there, you hate it (but you feel guilty to walk away because as a strong, independent career woman, you're not *supposed" to want something else because you're living the feminist dream!)
- The demands on your time reach beyond just the corporate walls: you have kids to raise, aging parents to worry about (and care for!), retirement to start thinking about (while saving for the kids' college funds!), etc.
- You're struggling with your personal relationships: friends you haven't seen in months and a disconnected marriage (or navigating the dating pool again!)
For most of us over 40, we don’t like or identify with the term “midlife”!
Believe me, as someone with 40 in the rearview mirror, I get it! We don’t like it because we’ve always seen a “midlife” woman as someone frumpy, past-her-prime, and, to put it frankly: OLD.
Now, that we’re north of 40, we don’t fit the image.
- We’re pulled together NOT frumpy.
- We’re at our peak NOT past our prime.
- And old? I don’t think so!
So, it’s no wonder when we hear the term “midlife”, our perfectly coiffed feathers, get ruffled in a hurry!
But, here’s the thing: the face of “midlife” has changed. Midlife women have not been put out to pasture! We’re successful women starting businesses, running marathons, and raising families.
Midlife is about hitting that transition period where we no longer feel “young”, but we definitely don’t feel “old.” When we start to feel that disconnect, confusion, fear, and sometimes even panic, sets in. Midlife is nothing more than the phase where we shed our old selves, and reawaken as new, improved, and a hell-of-a-lot better!
Yeah, it's a real thing...
Okay, I hate to use the word “midlife” since I know you SO don’t feel like you’re at that place! I get it!
But, here’s the thing...turning 40 is a big deal.
It’s the beginning of a transition period. For men, this has historically been called a “Midlife Crisis” and they’ve enjoyed all the glory of this rite of passage.
But, unlike men, women aren’t trying to hang onto their youth. For women, it’s a period of waking up, shedding what’s no longer working, and reinventing themselves and their lives.
For women over 40, they’re tired of the ‘shoulds’ and the expectations. They’re on the cusp of transitioning into a life that wakes them, fires them up, and has them releasing the woman inside that’s been dying to come out and play.
The beauty of this midlife transition for women is about finding purpose, creating adventure, and deepening connections.
At the same time, though: it’s scary, frustrating, and makes you feel lost in everything that’s familiar.
But, when you take action to face it head on instead of lashing out at everyone around you, or crying into your pillow every night, you get to take control and leave the crap behind.
You uncover the power that’s already inside of you to redefine yourself.
And, here’s the thing...you don’t have to make major changes or go extreme to reinvent yourself and your life, but you do have to get clear on what’s missing, your priorities, and how to invite that into your life.
A NEW CHAPTER IS WAITING TO BE WRITTEN
Imagine discovering that vital piece that’s missing and seeing new options for yourself- no more hamster wheel, no more frustration, no more emptiness, no more wasting time, no more regrets.
Instead, you live a life, created by your design, that feels empowering, enriching, and provides fulfillment, adventure, expansion, and potential.
You’re able to do more with your life and feel like you’re contributing to something that’s not only bigger than yourself, but lights your soul on fire. You get unstuck and excited about life again.
I’m a transformation coach and life strategist for high-achieving women over 40 looking for a Midlife Awakening. I help them find what’s missing so they can design a light-my-soul-on-fire life to climb out of the rut they’ve “goaled” themselves into over the years.
I’ve designed Midlife Awakening to tackle the resistance that comes from the realization that your carefully curated life is no longer enough (and the inevitable guilt that comes along with that!).
If you give into that resistance and fail to explore what lights you up, you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of regrets. Midlife Awakening is about learning that your life is worth the time, energy, and effort to figure out what’s not working so you give yourself permission to live it differently.
I understand the frustration, and the sense of helplessness that comes when feeling lost in the only world you know; how it feels when you know you’re meant for something greater, but have no idea what that is.
I’ve been there, and I’m here to help you find your path, discover what your soul is craving, and rediscover yourself.
I want to help you find this because I believe every woman deserves to step into herself and awaken to a life she deeply loves.
YOU WAKE UP EXCITED ABOUT THE DAY INSTEAD OF DREADING IT
Imagine yourself one year from now - you’ve done the work, you’ve identified what’s not working, and you’ve awakened to the life you know you’re meant to be living. In fact, every day, you’re choosing to explore that vital piece that lights you up, so you feel excited about life again - not frustrated and bored.
Maybe you have...
Left the soul-sucking job (and you feel zero guilt!)
Walked away from that dead-end relationship
Booked a solo trip to Europe (you know...that one you’ve been dreaming about for the past 10 years)
Comfortably and confidently set boundaries with your friends, family, and boss
Taken a class to learn how to do that thing you’ve been dying to try, but was too afraid to give it a go
Finally started writing that book that’s been writing itself in your head for the past five years
Set up a not-for-profit organization for the local cause that's always pulled at your heartstrings
CAN YOU PICTURE THAT?
HOW DOES THIS WORK?
To redesign your life and experience your Awakening, you have to dig in and get crystal clear on what’s not working, what you’re craving more of, and ways to bring more of that into your life.
I walk side-by-side with you through this process to get to the right answers so you build the right foundations.
So, how do we discover all of this and set you up for success? I like to think of your Midlife Awakening unfolding over three levels of work that we’ll do together:
PLAN FOR SUCCESS
READY TO AWAKEN A NEW LEVEL OF ENERGY AND PASSION?
Right now, you are probably feeling rather exhausted from all the demands in your life and the idea of taking on something new feels a little overwhelming. Who has the energy?!
When you stop doing all the things that are sucking the life out of you, you begin to fill your life with what fuels you. You'll still be busy, but you'll be fueled with a renewed passion and curiosity.
Because that's all you need to shed the 'shoulds', find inner peace, and re-energize your life!
Here's the skinny: You’re a busy woman, and I know you keep a lot of balls in the air, so I’m not going to ask you for a long-term commitment! But, I also don’t want you to rush through the process of upleveling your life.
Here’s what’s included in Midlife Awakening:
8 weekly 60-minute private coaching calls with me (via Zoom)
Between session “homework” (this will be unique to each person, but may include activities to do, journal prompts, custom workbooks, listening to recorded meditations or visioning exercises, etc.)
Private access to your session recordings, homework, etc.
+ Email support and accountability
APPLICATIONS OPEN IN SPRING 2019!
In the meantime, join my community of fellow women over 40 who are navigating their Midlife Transition! Get support, be inspired to take action, and learn new tools via my biweekly Shut the Muck Up! LIVE talks!
By requesting access to the group, you will be added to my Insider email list where you will get alerted when applications open again!
Fast forward to today: I’ve learned to create a new reality. My life is now full of color (even my two plants are happy!).
Working with Vicky allowed me to change my perspective on my life and discover who I am now. She has a way of always showing me a different way to think about things - I always get some sort of “aha moment” from our sessions.
Vicky understood what I was going through and helped me to see my world differently. I didn’t make major life changes, but when I discovered I wasn’t taking time for myself and adventure was my missing piece, I was able to change little things that added up to a new life. I thought I needed to move to another part of the country to be adventurous, but Vicky helped me see all of the other ways I could make that happen without uprooting my life.
Because of my work with Vicky, I found myself and started living again.
Not sure if this is the right move for you?
+ You're a woman over 40
+ You feel stuck and you don’t know what to do about it
+ You feel like something is missing in your life and you have no idea what it is, or...you have an inkling of what’s missing, but you don’t know what to do with that golden nugget
+ You’re not doing the things you dream of doing - writing the book that’s writing itself in your head; traveling to that country you’ve been dreaming about forever; starting that non-profit that would light your soul on fire, etc.
+ You feel unfulfilled and know you’re meant to be doing more with your life
+ You’re terrified of living this exact life for the next 40+ years and regretting it
+ You’re curious to know what you’re truly capable of, beyond the degrees, titles, and corporate accolades
+ You’re comfortable with trying new things
+ You’re ready to make some changes
While I had hopes and dreams, I didn’t believe in either them or in myself. I was full of self-doubt and fear. And then Vicky stepped in and our calls completely changed my life and the way I look at things. More importantly, it changed the way I look at myself.
Through all the ups and downs, Vicky was there for me. There were weeks I was so looking forward to meet up that I couldn’t help myself but count the hours until it was time for our call. Because of our work I now feel confident in my own abilities, I learned to step up to my fears and I never felt as happy and comfortable in my own skin as I do now. I am able to say this now with full faith and with my full heart: I can and I will. But I can only say this now because Vicky taught me to believe in myself.
+ When do we do our calls? I work during the day...
Guess what…so do I! We will conduct our 1:1 calls in the evenings or over the weekends.
In limited cases, earlier in the morning is a potential option, but for the most part, you’ll be able to look forward to our call after you finish your workday or as you’re relaxing during your weekend.
+ How much time will this take up each week?
Our bi-weekly calls last about 60 minutes. In between our sessions, you will have some work to do and the amount of time may vary. It will depend on how much work you want to put in to uncover what's missing and change whatever isn’t working in your life.
The biggest thing that will make the most difference in your progress is just being aware of yourself, doing the self-reflective work, and taking action.
+ Speaking of action...what if I don't want to do what you tell me to do?
Here's the thing...my role as your coach is to challenge you to step outside of your comfort zone. I will never expect you to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing!!
+ How does coaching differ from therapy?
Great question and it’s one many people that are new to coaching ask about. Therapy is conducted by licensed practitioners. They are trained to help people overcome things from their past. They are unconcerned with what goals a client may have for their future. The therapist's objective is to help the client identify any blocks from their past that they cannot get past on their own.
Coaching, on the other hand, is working with people that aren’t held back by traumatic things from their past. Our focus is working with clients to identify how they want to optimize their life. Then we work on whatever is getting in their way and preventing them from going down those paths. Yes, we might visit the past to work through a few of the blocks, but the difference is…we don’t stay there. We find it, deal with it, and move on.
+ Is this really going to change my life?
To put it simply…yes, if you want it to! If you’re willing to do the work, show up open and honest, and get real with yourself then yes, this can and will be life changing. It’s up to you.
I won’t be giving you a magic formula or checklist to transform your life. Everyone is different and everyone has to figure out what works for them. You will have to do the work…I will provide the framework, the guidance, the support, and the space for you to dig deep within yourself, get to know the real you, discover what’s holding you back, and start to make some internal (and possibly external) changes.
I cannot guarantee any specific results from our time together…that, my dear, is up to you. I will challenge you, call you out on your own excuses and BS, but it’s up to you what you do with that. If you’re ready to change your life, trust that you have the power and wisdom already inside you to make that happen.
+ If I change my mind, is there a refund?
I hope that won't be the case! But, if you’re not happy, I’m not happy, so I will work with you to make your experience better.
Unfortunately, though, due to the time element involved in coaching and that it’s not a product, there is no refund policy.
That change you’re craving...you’re ready for it, so let’s get started!
Every one is different and at a different place on your journey. If you are willing to do the work, get vulnerable, and be open, honest, and curious with yourself, you will see positive changes in your life as a result of this program. However, I can’t make you do the work and if you choose not to, your results may not be as impactful.
I cannot guarantee specific results for anyone since that is completely in your hands. I, however, do promise to be 100% focused on you & your goals and provide a safe and trusting space for you to explore yourself and your journey. I will ask the questions to get you there, but what you decide to do is entirely up to you.
Coaching is NOT therapy and I am not a licensed therapist. If you are in need of a therapist to heal past issues, please seek that help first before exploring coaching.